Motherhood means that having time for yourself is a luxury that doesn't happen everyday. It also means that doing something just for you and not your husband, kids, significant other or life-partner is almost impossible.
The thing I love doing most in the whole wide world is reading- Ok, it's not my favorite thing, but it's the thing I'm going to share with all of you.
Reading has always been important to me. I learned to read when I was four. Grown-up books. Books without pictures.
I have an older brother, Leon. He is four years older. He was the other reader in our household. Everytime I saw him reading, I begged him to read to me. From grown-up books. Not baby books with pictures. One day, he was done with my begging and announced that he was going to teach me to read.
Some forty years later, I still remember that book. Who Goes in My Garden by Ethel Collier. I remember the green hard cover. I remember it's slightly musty odor. I remember my brother pointing to each word, saying the word and having me repeat the word. He read that book to me until I could read the words back to him.
Teaching me to read was the best thing that anyone has ever done for me.
Since that day, some forty years ago, I have read something everyday. A magazine, a brochure, a newspaper. Something. Every. Day.
Expect for the what I now call the Dark Period. The first two years of my son's life. There was no reading of books. There was no reading of magazines. I was able to read the headlines from my local paper online, but that was it.
I don't regret the Dark Period. It was necessary. My son needed me.
I needed to read. So I started reading again on my birthday last year. I gave myself two presents last year. A mammogram and a library card. Both of those gifts can save a life...mine.
We must make time for ourselves. Reading, going for a walk ALONE, getting a mani/pedi. Whatever it is you need to do for and by yourself do it.
Our children will not suffer if we are not with them 24/7. We don't need to feel guilty for getting that mani/pedi or reading that book. I think it's important to give ourselves a time-out sometimes.